Friending

[bluespirit]

I get too emotional & let things upset me too much. I know that - & that's my issue.
I suffer from depression (I had to give up a job I loved because of it) & have to be really careful to insulate myself as best I can from things that will upset me. Some people may think that's cowardly but it's a coping mechanism.
I think I'm going to have to spend less time online & use that time for other things.
If we've grown apart (fandoms/interests change - it happens) or you're only here for certain media posts I might make & those posts may now be ending or you really only want to read my fic or look at my art (it's all posted to my archiving lj: starshinedreams) or for any other reason - then please don't worry about removing me from your flist.
The whole word 'friending' (or 'defriending') is such an emotional minefield but think of it as a reading list. If you want to take me off your reading list then I won't be offended. In a similar way I think I have to make some cuts to my own reading list in the next few days - nothing drastic but just to give me some breathing room.

*hugs*

Comments

[nakeisha.livejournal.com]

have to be really careful to insulate myself as best I can from things that will upset me. Some people may think that's cowardly

I don't think it's cowardly at all; I think it is perfectly logical and sensible. And I'm sure there are many folk (me included) who do it.

It sounds as though something or someone has upset you in a really bad way and for that I am very sorry.

*Hugs you*

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thanks so much, N.
To be honest it's not so much what happened - but my reaction to it. I actually made myself ill & couldn't sleep. It's given me a shock & made me realise that I need to keep some distance if I'm going to stay emotionally well.
I certainly don't intend to leave lj or fandom - just spend less time online. I want to concentrate more on the writing & art side of my fandom time & regain the joy.
*hugs*