Friending

[bluespirit]

I get too emotional & let things upset me too much. I know that - & that's my issue.
I suffer from depression (I had to give up a job I loved because of it) & have to be really careful to insulate myself as best I can from things that will upset me. Some people may think that's cowardly but it's a coping mechanism.
I think I'm going to have to spend less time online & use that time for other things.
If we've grown apart (fandoms/interests change - it happens) or you're only here for certain media posts I might make & those posts may now be ending or you really only want to read my fic or look at my art (it's all posted to my archiving lj: starshinedreams) or for any other reason - then please don't worry about removing me from your flist.
The whole word 'friending' (or 'defriending') is such an emotional minefield but think of it as a reading list. If you want to take me off your reading list then I won't be offended. In a similar way I think I have to make some cuts to my own reading list in the next few days - nothing drastic but just to give me some breathing room.

*hugs*

Comments

[neevebrody.livejournal.com]

*hugs you gently* My dear, not cowardly at all. In fact, it is admirable that you see that when something is a problem for you and you are taking steps to correct that before it becomes too big for to handle. YOU are what's important after all and I pray you take care of yourself and whatever has happened to cause this shift in your usually bright and sunny mood will soon pass.

I do not intend to remove you from my list, but if for some reason you need to, I will understand if you remove me.

Take care, love. ♥

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thanks, sweetheart (& no - I really hope we can stay friended, if you don't mind.)
I don't want to leave lj or fandom because I love SGA so much. I just need to spend more time enjoying it - reading, writing, etc - & not stressing over things.

[neevebrody.livejournal.com]

Well I know I can make the boys angsty at times. I do try and put them back together, though. ;) But you... you are always someone I go to if I need a lighter heart - someone who obviously loves life and whose stories always reflect that. I'm so bad sometimes about reading and not commenting. (I intend to change that in the coming year) I'll often read at work thinking to go back and leave feedback later and well... good intentions...

I was away from my computer for most of the day yesterday and spent the wee hours of this morning reading the wank - not to bring up a sore subject, but I felt that might have been part of your post. It's sad and so unnecessary. I do hope that you will concentrate on the things you love and your creativity, both with words and with art, and not let this linger too much. Yes, the show's over, but fandom is still here and those of us who love the boys know how to treat them and will take very good care of them for a long time to come.

*hugs you tight*

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thank you so, so much - you've cut right to the core of it for me. This should be about love & creativity & sharing & tolerance - & that's what I want to experience.
Our numbers may dwindle now the show is gone but we'll keep loving the boys & putting them in our stories & art. ♥
*big hugs*
Thanks again. :-)