Friending

[bluespirit]

I get too emotional & let things upset me too much. I know that - & that's my issue.
I suffer from depression (I had to give up a job I loved because of it) & have to be really careful to insulate myself as best I can from things that will upset me. Some people may think that's cowardly but it's a coping mechanism.
I think I'm going to have to spend less time online & use that time for other things.
If we've grown apart (fandoms/interests change - it happens) or you're only here for certain media posts I might make & those posts may now be ending or you really only want to read my fic or look at my art (it's all posted to my archiving lj: starshinedreams) or for any other reason - then please don't worry about removing me from your flist.
The whole word 'friending' (or 'defriending') is such an emotional minefield but think of it as a reading list. If you want to take me off your reading list then I won't be offended. In a similar way I think I have to make some cuts to my own reading list in the next few days - nothing drastic but just to give me some breathing room.

*hugs*

Comments

[mcalex22.livejournal.com]

I agree that friending and defriending is a minefield - some people get offended from it. So I'd like to say that if you want to defriend me, I won't hold it against you.

I know that with the ending of SGA, I probably diverge in interests from a lot of my flist. To be honest, it was the only fandom I'd ever slash in... I also have new interests these days so I know I won't necessarily interest everyone.

I didn't know that you suffered from depression - to be honest, I always thought that your journal was very uplifting and positive. Unless I'm filtered from it, I always find your posts very positive and lovely - from images of your dog to tales of Mr B and Xanthe and the occasional fic + pics.

As for getting upset, I haven't seen anything from you that isn't as bad some of what I've seen on my flist... and I've read some pretty upsetting posts! I have people on my flist who have threatenned to write to TPTB of SPN because of their dislike of new characters etc... I think you're very down to earth compared to a lot of others' post I've read! :)

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thank you.
No - I don't filter anything. I just try to always be upbeat in my lj (well, as much as is possible.) My depression is so much better than it used to be & is more or less at a plateau now but I still have to be careful; hence me insulating myself away from triggers.
I just need to scale back for a while - but hope to still make posts about my silly Buddy & hopefully post more fic & art as I do them.