Friending

[bluespirit]

I get too emotional & let things upset me too much. I know that - & that's my issue.
I suffer from depression (I had to give up a job I loved because of it) & have to be really careful to insulate myself as best I can from things that will upset me. Some people may think that's cowardly but it's a coping mechanism.
I think I'm going to have to spend less time online & use that time for other things.
If we've grown apart (fandoms/interests change - it happens) or you're only here for certain media posts I might make & those posts may now be ending or you really only want to read my fic or look at my art (it's all posted to my archiving lj: starshinedreams) or for any other reason - then please don't worry about removing me from your flist.
The whole word 'friending' (or 'defriending') is such an emotional minefield but think of it as a reading list. If you want to take me off your reading list then I won't be offended. In a similar way I think I have to make some cuts to my own reading list in the next few days - nothing drastic but just to give me some breathing room.

*hugs*

Comments

[nieninque121.livejournal.com]

*hugs tight* take care, and like others have said above, it's not cowardly. Life's hard enough as it is, I see nothing wrong with making it easier.

and belatedly, thanks for your x'mas card. Yours should be in the post tomorrow.

[perfica.livejournal.com]

Sometimes stepping away from LJ (and being online) is really refreshing. I tend to forget that there's a world off the computer :D

I won't be offended if you cut me; I've been awfully quiet lately.

[fawkesielady-ed.livejournal.com]

I understand completely! I have similar issues along with several others and so I don't blame you for needing some time away.
I am a little sad that you won't be around as often, I'll certainly miss your fic and art but I'll live.

You take care of you and keep yourself healthy. I won't be removing you from my list.

[liresius.livejournal.com]

*hugs you like woah* You do what you need to my darling, and you have my support as always.

Um, yeah I kind of missed all of wot happened after my own response/comment (oblivious me!), but have since caught up enough to realise what the issue is, so *sends you much love and hugs*

Oh, and you know? ... You are so TOTALLY not allowed to defriend me!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!

You know that's a joke, right? *grins* I just wanna to put a smile on your face!

[sgamadison.livejournal.com]

I can completely understand. I took the news of the cancellation rather badly and made some not-so-smart decisions based on that fact.

On a lighter note, I just saw today that ABC is doing a midseason replacement show with Nathan Fillion as a writer that assists the police when crimes commited begin to mimic his horror novels. Starts in March here--I'm looking forward to seeing NF in something again. :-0

[brinian.livejournal.com]

I will...just don't comment much. I ALWAYS look at the Budster when he shows up on my flist!

[lijahlover.livejournal.com]

*Hugs you hun*

[missnoxie.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Feel better, hon. *more hugs*

[saldemonium.livejournal.com]

*hugs* You do whatever you need to do to make yourself happy and safe, honey. Whatever's upsetting you, I hope it gets better.

[aelfwitchfic.livejournal.com]

I understand needing time to breath and taking time for one self. I suffer from depression as well, so I can relate.

You are welcome back to my journal whenever you wish :)
I will check out your starshinedreams LJ for your fics.

*hugs*

Akasha ^V^

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Oh, that is good news - anything with NF can't be bad. *g*

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thanks so much, cep - finding our friendship has been such a wonderful benefit of lj.
I'm not leaving - just making my flist more manageable so I can spend more time writing (well, that's my plan!)

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much, A. And you're completely right - I know that, but it's easy to get overwhelemed isn't it? That's why I'm taking a step back, getting my head on straight (well, I can try!) & then coming back hopefully refreshed & back to enjoy the fun side of things again.
*big fleece-y hugs*

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

It certainly is.

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thanks so much.
*hugs*
I'm hoping to be back - just not quite as much - in a little while. By cutting my flist to more manageable numbers I hope I can spend time interacting more meaningfully & also have more time for writing, etc. But have no fear - there'll be more about the adventrues of Bud! :-)

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

That's so sweet of you - thank you.
*hugs*

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thank you again.
I was upset as assumptions seem to be being made about me & I was being labelled based on those assumptions - & they were in error.
But I hope that we can just move on & concentrate on the good things. :-)

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thanks so much, sweetheart. I won't be gone long, I hope.
*hugs*

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thank you.
*hugs*
My depression has been in a really good place for a while but I could see the warning signals & just needed to act before things got worse. I love fandom & lj & really don't want to lose my joy in it.
Hopefully the changes I'm making will help.
There'll definitely be more Buddy posts - that boy is just too cute not to share. *g*

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Aw, thanks so much, J.
*huggles*

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much - you're right; there is a world out there & I need to spend more time in it. :-)

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thank you.
Well, I'm hoping that spending less time on lj I'll actually have more time to write, etc so in theory there should be more fic & art! (I hope!)
*hugs*

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

*rushes to defriend button*
...

LOL Oh, L - as if! You've just given me a great big smile. Thank you.
*big Buddy hugs*

Weirdly, I feel quite liberated & am really looking forward to doing more writing & to using my lj time more productively. :-)

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Bless you, sweetheart.
*hugs*

[bluespirit-star.livejournal.com]

Thanks, sweetheart!
*hugs*